…….So some of you may have seen the article circulating about Women bloggers that are LDS. I have such a huge opinion of this, well you know me, that I just had to give it and I hope my…oh I don’t know “5” followers ….will not be insulted in any way or form by what I have to say!
First of all….Like I have said before I have had this blog for EVER!!! The reason in the delay of frequent posts was that I didn’t know how “my” blog would be read, judged, heard, etc. I wanted a place to write my honest feelings, give advice, words of encouragement, slaps in the face, pick me ups, and whatever happened in this crazy body living this crazy life! I hoped that it would be something for my kids to read when I am gone someday. …..Along the way if some other human could make any sense of my, kindergarten grammar, bad spelling, weird sense of humor and slightly perverted ways, than that would be even better! I have always felt that most people would get a 1/8 of the way through a post of mine and be bored or offended and move on.
The worst thing for me as a human is to ever think that I have made someone feel LESS THAN!......I want to be on the same level as people and relate and learn from each other! There is nothing better than to hear someone else say “that same thing happened to me”, or, “I feel that same way!”
I felt that my blog could benefit people in three ways……..#1 To first and foremost have a good laugh for the day. #2 Make people grateful that they are not crazy like me and #3 Know that it is OK if you are crazy like me!
As women of the “church”, since the article is talking about Mormon bloggers, isn’t it our job to be each others biggest fans! To cheer each other on! To be happy when things are going great for one another! To uplift others when they are down! Yes I feel it is! …….I feel that sometimes this “social media craze” is not to our benefit! ….How the hell would I know if Suzie reupholstered her couch cushions, baked a cake from scratch, her oldest got all A’s, husband got a raise, or where and how much that new skirt was she was sporting in church on Sunday??? I WOULDN’T!!! Therefor I would still love and appreciate her as my neighbor and not covet her like a Gucci handbag! Lol
I do say this laughing out loud because we are so flippin hard on ourselves…..remember my post (one out of the 3 I have posted) about GUILT!!! …….You would never see me pop open a lawn chair with a box of girl scout cookies all day outside of Gold’s Gym, watching all the young, wrinkle free, skinny, girls go in and come out! NO WAY! So why read something day in and day out that is going to make you feel insecure and less than! I might as well go test drive a brand new Benz and then go get into my Lumina! ….Now I’m not saying that bloggers don’t have good intentions they really do! But the facade that not only LDS women, but all women, including myself, feel that they have to put up for the world to see is just nutts! …….and is a really good sign that WE ALL NEED HELP!
Like I said this blog of mine is for my children to read some day….I want them to know that I was not perfect and that it is so OK for them to not be perfect!
I will be the first to admit when…… I have the biggest zit on my face, I swore at my kids again, my house is a filthy mess, my son is struggling in Math, my kids don’t go to bed at the same time each night, I shove things under my bed, I don’t always want to go to church, that my marriage is not always roses not even carnations at times, I can’t buy anything at DownEast cause of my big fat gut, things that go “Buzz” are what save marriages!, a Prozac every now and then is nOrMaL, and that I need therapy but can’t afford it………….OH MY GOSH THE LIST GOES ON AND ON!!! …..Now It may not get me to a blogging conference or a million gazillion followers, but it will give me a place to vent, show who I really am (good or bad)….and hopefully improve my spelling….that spell check is amazing!
All I need to remember is…This is who I am, you never have to wonder…. I am what I am!
All you need to remember is that…… It’s perfectly perfect to be imperfect!
AMEN sista- we are way too hard on ourselves and I dont see that stopping anytime soon. I think thats just how we are. I love your blog it makes me smile and I feel like I am not the only one out there with "problems". Love ya
ReplyDeleteLOVE IT! LOVE YOU! Just wish I had gotten to know you better in high school. I'm sorry if I was ever unkind... Just shy and incredibly insecure with myself!:)
ReplyDeleteYEA you guys are my first posts EVER!!! lol Bonnie I adore you and miss you at work!......Melissa you were never unkind, I just always wished I could go with you and Jada to "the beach house" in the summer! lol I think we were all a little insecure, but you never seemed like you were insecure! I always admired your mature personality unlike some of the crazy in your face, obnoxious, look at me girls! Thanks to Face book now we can be friends! :)
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